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Are you trying to put your life back together after a divorce or breakup?

Are you trying to put your life back together after a divorce or breakup?

You are not alone, I have heard it all…

-He left for a younger woman and I found out on Facebook.

-He broke up with me over text.

-He called off our wedding and couldn’t give me a reason.

-He moved to another country and let his visa expire so I guess our engagement is off.

-He stopped coming home at night and said he stayed at his mom’s.

-He asked for a divorce after 20-30 years of marriage.

-He left me a long time ago and I am trying to move on but I just can’t.

 

 

 

Whatever your story… know that it doesn’t own you and it doesn’t have to ruin your future.

There is actually a bigger, better, future waiting for you.

 

So I bet you are wondering how people let go of the past and start manifesting the future of their dreams….

What if I told you that not only do I know the steps to get you there, but I actually help women implement them into their busy lives.

In fact, these are all of the steps we take together to manifest that perfect future!

 

Step 1: Let go of your past and the emotional blocks keeping you there.

Step 2: Build your confidence, self-love, and self-awareness.

Step 3: Make room for and plan the future of your dreams.

Step 4: Trust the process and enjoy every moment as your dreams unfold.

 

So here’s the deal…

If I make time to hear your story and help you get clarity on what your future dreams look like, would you schedule a call?

If this sounds like something you would like, click HERE to schedule a call with me. Start the healing now!

 

Have you ever experienced magnetic love… that’s bad for you?

Have you ever experienced magnetic love… that’s bad for you?

Have you ever experienced magnetic love… that’s bad for you… and you know it.

Yeah… it’s like you are so attracted to them in so many ways… but something is off.

Logically you know this can’t be love… but the feelings are so intense they can’t be ignored.

I remember my mom saying… “why would you ever want to be treated like this?”

And nothing I could say would ever make her understand the way he made me feel.

He was a magnet with the strongest pull I had ever experienced and I got it confused with…. love.

He was great, fun, exciting, I could take him anywhere, easy to talk to, easy to get along with… great in public….

But behind the scenes….

There was always a lie to uncover.

Almost like a second life to be discovered.

He was great at ignoring me. Great at making me feel like I wanted too much from him.

I turned into a doormat… that he didn’t respect.

I was always there for him. Promising to help him through his… “issues”. He came to expect me to be there and it got to a point where he knew he could come and go as he pleased.

Empty promises seemed to be the theme. All the while… I couldn’t think about anything but him and the “good times”. I clung to them… living in the past until another one would come along. Each time… getting farther and farther apart.

It wasn’t until my life had suddenly been changed forever that I was forced to deal with the reality instead of the fairy tale I made up in my head.

That change was a little boy. He looked just like his father and was the version of him I could have forever. The version that would love me deeper than his dad was ever capable of.

That little boy changed everything. And that little boy saved me. He saved me from living in delusion. I stopped accepting less. I started only accepting the best.

But still the same problem… I was living for someone else. My child got me on the right track until I was able to start living for myself.

Now I know enough to fill myself up first so I have more to offer my family, my work, and the world. I know that I was uniquely created for a purpose only I can fulfill. I learned that my voice will be heard, not by everyone but by those who need it. I learned that the world needs my creativity, contribution, and love in order to evolve according to Gods unique plan.

So what about you? If you want to grow, reflect on these questions…

When is enough going to be enough?

When will you learn your true value?

When will you be willing to try anything to get the results your 8-year-old little girl thought you would have?

What impact are you making on the world?

Are you living for yourself? Or for someone else?

 

Breakup to Bliss

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I went from “I can’t do this” 13 days before our wedding… to “marrying you was the best decision I have ever made”

How does one get from point A to point B?

1. Get to know yourself and what you want really well.
2. Love and respect yourself more than you ever have before.
3. Never accept anything from anyone that is less than you deserve.
4. Don’t get stuck on anyone… if it isn’t mutual… he/she isn’t part of the plan.
5. Be grateful for all that you have.

 

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It sounds simple and straightforward but there are actually exercises I did to get myself not just thinking 1-5 but experiencing and believing them.

We have 50k-70k thoughts per day… we can easily counteract what we want with our thoughts…

For example, looking in the mirror you may have the thought… “I am not pretty enough” or “I am too fat”…

How can you attract a man who will see you for how magnificent you are if even you don’t believe it? Those thoughts are damaging. They are interfering with your progress to find a man.

And you don’t want just any man… you want a man like I have… someone who wakes up on a Sunday morning and tells you, “marrying you was the best decision I ever made.”

That’s the man you want but you have to train for it. It’s like a marathon. Except for its training for your brain… your thoughts. Which impact your feelings…. which impact how you show up in the world (your attractiveness).

So connect with me for all of my tips and tricks to finding not just the one… but the one that will truly love, appreciate you and respect you. ❤️❤️❤️
#worthyoflove

 

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Are You Ready to Get Off the Roller Coaster Yet?

C5E9F752-AC97-49E2-BDD8-0F37435BF3BE.jpegYou know the one where your emotions go from extreme highs to extreme lows…. Where your heart wants to fix everything but your head tells you to run.

I have heard it all… He cheats on me and then tells me he has changed.

He tells me she is just a friend that’s confused and nothing has happened but she goes crazy when she sees us together.

He lies to me about where he’s been and I am stupid enough to believe him.

He got someone pregnant but says it isn’t his… he says she is trying to set him up.

He comes around when he needs something and talks me into giving him what he wants every time.

You believe him when you know you shouldn’t…. But you want to. You want it to work out so badly…. that you compromise yourself because when it’s good…. it’s REALLY good!

Are you that lost little girl hoping for a fairy tale ending?
Get off the roller coaster ride darling… there isn’t anything you can do to change the direction of the tracks.

Save yourself now… quit wasting your life on someone who doesn’t see your value.

You are #worthyoflove. The real love! Not the roller coaster kind.

Case Study Results #3

What problems were you facing before?
After 11 years of marriage it felt like we’d never made it past the first month. We had been through so much I had no idea if we were together because of love or a trauma bond/codependent issue. I was so shut down I never wanted to be intimate with him ever again. I didn’t know what was wrong, I just knew it was a shitty relationship and I didn’t know if I wanted it to get better or be over.

What was this costing you?
EVERYTHING! No matter how hard I tried to succeed at anything in life I’d eventually just shut down because the most important thing in my life, my marriage, felt worthless. I felt worthless. I didn’t value myself at all, which made it impossible to ask clients to pay me a livable amount. I felt like all my dreams were impossible. I was a yes woman who was trying to find value in what other people thought of me and I was miserable 😭 .

How did the LOVE ENERGY course help you solve your problem?
First and most importantly it helped me see what love truly is, and taught me HOW to love myself. Nobody can love you more than you love yourself, and your capacity to feel love comes from within yourself, not from a feeling others try to make you feel. Now I know how to feel true love whenever I want and can freely give myself what I need. I also know that nobody else can love me more than they love themselves (it goes both ways). Now I’m only willing to consider relationships with others who are coming from that place themselves. I also found that I was terrified of the truth and had been lying to myself to justify staying in a relationship that made everyone miserable. I get stuck because I wasn’t allowing myself to consider ending the relationship. It’s still scary as hell to go through a divorce, but since I made the decision it’s been so liberating! I can finally feel a deep peace that I’d never known before. I can trust myself, and I can trust others and let them in instead of fearfully keeping myself hidden at all costs. I’m stepping forward towards everything I’ve ever dreamed of, and it wouldn’t have been possible without Love Energy!

Love energy- my energy had been completely depleted. I never knew how to love myself- I didn’t even know what that meant.

Now it’s a pivotal part of my life to keep my love energy strong 💪

Case Study Results #3

What problems were you facing before?
After 11 years of marriage it felt like we’d never made it past the first month. We had been through so much I had no idea if we were together because of love or a trauma bond/codependent issue. I was so shut down I never wanted to be intimate with him ever again. I didn’t know what was wrong, I just knew it was a shitty relationship and I didn’t know if I wanted it to get better or be over.

What was this costing you?
EVERYTHING! No matter how hard I tried to succeed at anything in life I’d eventually just shut down because the most important thing in my life, my marriage, felt worthless. I felt worthless. I didn’t value myself at all, which made it impossible to ask clients to pay me a livable amount. I felt like all my dreams were impossible. I was a yes woman who was trying to find value in what other people thought of me and I was miserable 😭 .

How did the LOVE ENERGY course help you solve your problem?
First and most importantly it helped me see what love truly is, and taught me HOW to love myself. Nobody can love you more than you love yourself, and your capacity to feel love comes from within yourself, not from a feeling others try to make you feel. Now I know how to feel true love whenever I want and can freely give myself what I need. I also know that nobody else can love me more than they love themselves (it goes both ways). Now I’m only willing to consider relationships with others who are coming from that place themselves. I also found that I was terrified of the truth and had been lying to myself to justify staying in a relationship that made everyone miserable. I get stuck because I wasn’t allowing myself to consider ending the relationship. It’s still scary as hell to go through a divorce, but since I made the decision it’s been so liberating! I can finally feel a deep peace that I’d never known before. I can trust myself, and I can trust others and let them in instead of fearfully keeping myself hidden at all costs. I’m stepping forward towards everything I’ve ever dreamed of, and it wouldn’t have been possible without Love Energy!

Love energy- my energy had been completely depleted. I never knew how to love myself- I didn’t even know what that meant.

Now it’s a pivotal part of my life to keep my love energy strong 💪

The “Other” Mom

I remember the first time my child wanted to do something nice for his step mom on Mother’s Day. I remember it like it was yesterday… because it literally was….. After having the Mother’s Day gifts all to myself for the last 9 years, I just found out that this year he asked to give her one too.
 
He doesn’t know that I know this yet. I heard it from the person who does the Mother’s Day gift making/shopping with him.
 
When I heard the news, it made me break into tears. It was an emotion I have never had to encounter before… sharing my child with another woman.
 
The thought of him thinking of anyone else as his mother… when I have been there taking care of his every need for the last ten years was a shocker and quite unexpected. Something I don’t think we can ever prepare for.
 
Raising him as a single parent has been the hardest thing I have ever done. I realized right away why it takes two people to create a child because it honestly takes two people (or more) to raise one. To the mothers (and sometimes fathers) who are oncall 24 hours a day raising their children, working a full time job, and trying to figure out who they are when they have a spare 30 seconds…. You all know that it’s a tough job.
 
It’s a job that when done right is the most rewarding. I have always found that taking the easy route is never nearly as rewarding as doing the right thing and facing all the struggles that come with it.
 
His father’s new wife has been a challenge for him to get used to. He isn’t always sure about her. He struggles sometimes but I know that it is important for him to keep trying to grow his relationship with his dad and his new step mom. So I continuously encourage it.
 
I know that it would be easier to use his fears to my advantage and I am in a position of power to sway him to think she is the devil. To be completely honest, there is a small part of me that thinks it might actually be fun to swash the relationship to hurt my ex. Afterall, I have never been acknowledged by him on Mother’s Day. A piece of revenge may tastes sweet for a few seconds.
 
But the last time I checked…. My child is not a game piece on some board game. And that thought of revenge may feel nice for a split second…. But that’s really NOT who I am. I do not feel peace, joy or love from getting revenge on anyone… even those I have loved that stopped loving me back.
 
So, this Mother’s Day I am able to celebrate two things!
 
Two AMAZING things!
 
1. The unconditional love of my child
 
AND
 
2. Great parenting!
 
Because the truth is, I know that not having love from both parents is the worst thing that could ever happen to my child. So by setting my personal feelings and hurt aside, I am able to provide my child with a loving experience from both parties. And to encourage to have an open heart and how important it is to have gratitude and love in his life…. I just proved to myself that I am rocking the parenting gig!
 
My message for all of you today, is Happy Mother’s Day and no matter how hard it is (unless it is an extremely abusive situation, then seek help) please encourage a relationship with your child’s step parent always.
 
There is enough love for EVERYONE!
 
If you would like to talk more on this subject please feel free to reach out. Thank you!